National Girlfriends Day 2019: Five tips to find the woman of your dreams | OPINION
August 1 marks the National Girlfriends Day in the United States which means its time to show some love to your significant other.
For most committed men, it is a day to treat your girlfriend to a fancy lunch or dinner, go see that movie you have been waiting for, or simply reminisce about the past.
However, if you are single and in search of a partner, here are a few tips to find the perfect woman:
Be more social instead of just living on social media
Facebook and Twitter can only get you so far.
If you want to make a genuine connection with a woman, you better step out into the world.
Hanging out or simply spending a few minutes in public places like the grocery store, a bookstore or library, a coffee shop, neighborhood park, a hiking trail or the music shop increases your chances of bumping into the girl of your dreams.
"If you want to meet someone when you're by yourself, try to be approachable. Look around, pay attention to who's around you, and smile, even if it feels awkward or hard," relationship and dating expert Jessica Engle told WikiHow.
Meeting in a setting also increases the chances of the women having the same interests and hobbies as you, which itself can be a great conversation starter.
Don't come off as a stalker or a creep in your approach
Although it might be a cliché, relationships can end before they have begun if your first impression on the woman you find attractive is of someone who wants to confront her.
Hence, smile and relax before approaching her.
Also, make sure that you are not all up in her face while attempting to make a conversation.
Lean back a little and hold eye contact while telling her why you simply had to come up and say hello.
It helps if you have a deep voice like Vin Diesel and are naturally confident in speaking to women because then you can try and give her a genuine compliment.
Flattery is something that few women can resist, especially if it's coming from the heart.
Hence, keep it simple like, “Hey, I know this is random but I just walked past you and thought I have to go back and talk to you.” Nothing too fancy or flirty.
Turn on the charm
Prince Charming is for fairy tales, mostly because women in 21st century are not damsels in distress and in need of saving.
Also, there is no definite definition of "charm" and it might mean different things to different people.
While some men are naturally charming and all they need is to walk up to the woman in question to ooze charm, others are not that fortunate and need to work harder at it.
According to TSB Magazine, you can try to learn how to be charming from watching interviews of celebrities like young Marlon Brando, Colin Ferrell, Paul McCartney, Bill Clinton, Brad Pitt and Will Smith.
However, that does not mean imitating their personality as doing so would make you lose your own individuality and make you come across as fake. Instead, pay close attention to their body language, facial expression, tonality, body language, use of humor and smile.
Try and practice the same in front of a mirror or in the company of friends before trying it out on the woman you like.
The magazine also talks about the "glow of sexuality" as being part of one's charm. Certain women may take note of how men look at women, how one gazes at her lips and eyes as one speaks to her and the ease with which the man touches her sensually, the outlet says.
However, this is a kind of charm that should be unleashed only when you have enough self-confidence to pull it off.
The numbers game
Regardless of where you meet your potential match, it is important that you don't get lost in the conversation to the point where you forget to get her number.
Don't gamble it away on the off chance that you know her name and you will track her down on Facebook or the several other social media sites. Even if you do manage to find her, she might stalker-zone you, which hurts your chances of building a meaningful relationship with her.
Having a woman's number can let you text her, which will help one establish intimacy, comfort and, sexuality in a relationship. The endgame, however, is to invite her on a date.
The all-important date
The first date decides whether you are having the next one. As simple as that.
Data Metrics tells men to keep away from dinners as the setting of the first date as they are awkward, expensive and way too formal. Instead, choose a location that is relaxed, informal and involves activities which increase physical intimacy between the two of you.
For example, if she is an animal lover, you can visit a zoo or a national park together. Apart from giving both of you the feeling like you’ve traveled the world together, she might grab your arm while coming face-to-face with a cute or a scary animal.
Other great locations include hookah bars, bars in general, arcades and ten pin bowling.
Also, the woman has likely spent a lot of hours picking out the right outfit and trying to look the best she can for the date. So, don't forget to compliment her!