Michelle Obama reveals she took Barack Obama to marriage counseling during his tenure as US President to 'fix him'
Though the couple has been happily married for 26 years with two daughters, Malia and Sasha, at one point in their marriage, Michelle thought they needed professional assistance
Former first lady Michelle Obama has made a lot of revelations about her personal life in her recently-released memoir 'Becoming', including the fact that she and former president Barack Obama took marriage counseling when he was in office.
The 54-year-old Michelle Obama, while appearing on 'The Tonight Show Starring Jimmy Fallon' this week, discussed going to marriage counseling and said: "Marriage is hard, even for us. We have a great relationship."
Michelle said that although the couple has been happily married for 26 years with two daughters, Malia and Sasha, the former first lady, at one point in their marriage, thought that they needed professional assistance.
"The thing about marriage counseling is, I was one of those wives who [thought], 'I'm taking you to marriage counseling – so you can be fixed, Barack Obama'," she recalled. "Because I was like, 'I'm perfect'. I was like, 'Dr. X, please fix him'."
However, the former lawyer added that she received a rude awakening from the counselor when he turned the tables and said that she should not be dependant on her husband to make her happy.
"And then our counselor looked over at me. I was like, 'What are you looking at? I'm perfect'. Marriage counseling was a turning point for me understanding it wasn’t up to my husband to make me happy," Michelle explained. "That I had to learn how to fill myself up and have to put myself up higher on my priority list."
"What I learned about myself was that my happiness was up to me and I started working out more, I started asking for help, not just from him but from other people,” the former first lady said and added, "I stopped feeling guilty."
Michelle, while talking about her new memoir, said that she mentioned about the counseling in her book to let young people know that relationships require dedication and hard work. The former first lady added that she had previously noted young people labeling their marriage as #relationshipgoals: "I want young people to know that marriage is work. Even the best marriages require work."
"If you’re married for 50 years and 10 of them are horrible, you’re doing really good. Anybody would take those odds," she added.