Man told to choose between wife and daughter during childbirth; dad makes heartbreaking decision and saves baby
Frederick knew how Keyvonne felt about children and made the decision that she should have the emergency C-section done to save their daughter's life
On what was supposed to be the happiest day of his life, Frederick Connie was faced with a devastating choice to make. His wife, Keyvonne Connie, went into early labor and started hemorrhaging at the family home in Littleton, Colorado. When the couple rushed to the hospital, the doctors told the expectant father that he had to choose between saving his wife or their daughter. Frederick said that he chose what he thought his wife would have wanted him to do. On the same day, his baby girl was born into the world and he lost the woman he loved.
KDVR reported that Keyvonne wasn't supposed to have the baby until mid-January next year. On November 30, however, she went into early labor and the concerned father-to-be immediately knew that something was terribly wrong. He told the news outlet: "I'm like, 'Are you okay?' And I see blood everywhere."
The couple immediately rushed to the hospital where he was forced to make the impossible choice. He recalled: "It was either give her the surgery first that may save her life, but you're going to lose your daughter, or your daughter can be saved but there's a chance you might lose your wife."
Frederick knew how Keyvonne felt about children and made the decision that she should have the emergency C-section done to save their daughter's life. He said: "I'm glad I made that decision because in the end if Keyvonne probably could have survived, she would have hated me for the rest of my life."
Keyvonne miraculously survived the C-section and was able to see some pictures of her baby daughter but the joy was short lived. A few minutes later, she died. Frederick told the news outlet: "Literally all of her insides just went all over the bed and floor. They tried [to save her] and her heart couldn't take it. She died before they could even get her to surgery."
The father is now left to bring up his daughter by himself. He named her Angelique Keyvonne Connie and calls her "Pooder" for short. He said: "I gave her her mom's name. She's going to know her mom. I'll make sure of that."
The infant girl is set to spend at least a couple of weeks in the hospital where she will be fed donated breast milk to get her strength up. The nurses have gifted the baby new clothes and Frederick was given a room in labor and delivery after the devastating loss of his wife.
He said: "I'm the only man to ever have a room in the labor and delivery. The mothers there said it was okay." Frederick is still trying to figure out how to change diapers but he also said that he plans to be a "full-time father" for his little girl.
He said: "I'm a foster child myself you know. I don't know my parents real well. For Pooder to have me is a big deal."
Frederick will only start planning his wife's funeral after his infant daughter comes home from the hospital. The new dad is already struggling under debt and has vowed to sell all his possessions and sleep in his car if he has to for his child. He said: "I'm financially not okay. This debt is piling up and I have to bury my wife, my daughter coming into the world, it's so high right now."
His boss, Justin Collins, has since started a Facebook Fundraiser to help him and Pooder and it has already raised more than $15,000 of the $25,000 goal. Keyvonne's tragic death came just weeks after it was revealed that women in America are 50 percent more likely to die during childbirth than their own mothers were.
The risk is three or four times higher if the woman is black and this is regardless of their income or education. The Center for Disease Control (CDC) also found out that women in the US are more likely to die from childbirth or other pregnancy-related issues than women from other developed countries.