Lily Allen speaks out about her 'incredibly traumatic' miscarriage
After 2008, Lily Allen once again went through the same trauma of losing a child in 2011, and she hasn't gotten over the grief
Losing a child can be tremendously heartbreaking for any mother, and Lily Allen, who suffered two miscarriages, is no exception. In a recent interview on BBC Radio 4's Woman’s Hour podcast, the 33-year-old almost seemed to break down when she spoke about the agony she went through when she gave birth to her stillborn son George eight years ago.
Allen said, "I went into trauma and I don’t think I will ever recover from that.” Recalling the ordeal, Allen, who was at the time of the tragedy married to Sam Cooper, described the heartbreaking scene that she had to witness for at least 12 hours. After going into early labor, "they put a stitch in my cervix to try and stop that from developing, and that lasted for the best part of a week,” said Allen, who also suffered a miscarriage three years before that during her relationship with musician Ed Simons.
"The stitch broke and I went into full-blown labor and the baby was really, really small. As I was delivering him, the doctors said there was a pulse, but then there wasn’t. The cord was wrapped around his neck . . . He was just too small.” She described that since the unborn child's skin was not entirely developed, doctors could not use forceps to take him out. As a result, he remained stuck half way. "So there was a period of about 12 hours of him lying there deceased in between my legs which was incredibly traumatic.”
@lilyallen just heard you on @BBCWomansHour thank you for being so open about the loss of your baby. You know it really helps to hear other women talking about their experiences. Sending big love to you ❤️❤️❤️. Good luck for this evening 😘— Wooden Wedge (@alidwight) September 20, 2018
This won't be the first time that the British singer-songwriter has opened up about the devastating experience. Talking about her second miscarriage which happened in 2011 (the first happened in 2008 when she was dating 'Chemical Brothers' musician Ed Simons), she had mentioned on her documentary 'Lily Allen: Rags to Riches' (2011), that it was a long battle. "I used to vomit after meals. It's not something I'm proud of." During the time of the miscarriage, the couple was completely broken. A friend had told the Daily Mail, "She had kept quiet for three months until she had the scan and doctors told her everything was OK. She was, understandably, so nervous after having had a miscarriage before."
Allen probably could never overcome the grief of losing her second child as well. "I don’t think I did. The hardest thing about that was losing a child, but there were complications with the actual delivery." It seems like the grief of her first child had not left her and she was already bundled with another pain. In 2014, following her miscarriage, Allen had told The Sun, "But it’s not something that you get over. I held my child and it was really horrific and painful — one of the hardest things that can happen to a person...I nearly died. But I was numb and I didn’t care. I’d just lost my baby and that is a reflection of how numb I was.”
The singer-songwriter had two children, Marnie Rose and Ethel Mary, after this with now-ex-husband Cooper.
Allen's upcoming book 'My Thoughts Exactly' where Allen shares her own stories of being a mother, a wife, and complete woman, was released on September 20.