Harvard psychologist offers five simple tips to raising a 'good' child
Everyone has their own definition of good parenting and not everyone agrees on what that entails. However, there is no doubt that, with changing times, the way children are brought up is going to change. For instance, we now have television, video games and mobile phones that make evening play time sound like an archaic idea to our children.
With so many changes, it is only reasonable to evolve the way one parents. It is important to have a strong relationship with your child in order for good parenting to take place and, according to a Harvard psychologist, these are the simple tips that you can keep in mind to ensure that you have done a successful job of raising a "good" child. reported apost.com
1. Enjoy special time with your child
Everyone is racing against time and, in today's scenario, everyone has one thing or another on their plate. Some might find themselves trying to juggle work and personal life while the others might be in the run to get some work done. However, amid all this, we forget how it is important to have special time alone with our children. If you are thinking that giving your child a toy to play with while you finish your work is the definition of spending time, you are wrong. Just how adults enjoy a good conversation where our phones are not the center of attention, children too love to spend one-on-one time with parents. So, even if you are busy, don't miss the opportunity of bonding with your child.
2. Do not hesitate to tell them that they are your priority
Of course, everyone loves their children but not everyone says it. As much as children love to see their parents supporting them, every now and then, it feels good to hear it too. A simple, sweet gesture or a good compliment can turn our bad day into a good one. Telling your child how much you love them or what they mean to you go a long way in cementing your bond.
3. Allow your child to solve problems
As a parent, you want to protect your child from every problem that might come their way. But it is important to note that it is not always possible to do so. There are going to be times when you are not there and, in those situations, it is your child who has to make the big decisions. Sure, they might go wrong sometimes but that is just the process of learning. Let them take the upper hand and allow them to make some of their decisions by themselves. But never forget to support them.
4. Applaud their accomplishments
If your child has completed their chores, take time to appreciate them for finishing their task. The level of compassion given further allows your child to see and experience gratitude. Various studies have shown that children who often practice these habits are likely to be compassionate, forgiving and helpful as a result. However, don’t just give praise to rare acts of kindness. Give praise as often as it is due.
5. Allow them to see the bigger picture
Allow your child to see the world with compassion. Show them that there is more to life than just gadgets. Teach them about empathy, the act of listening and the act of being kind. At the same time, show them how important it is to have empathy towards others who may or may not be their family members and friends. Embracing everyone for who they are, no matter their religion or ethnic group is an important message that you can teach your child.