Gwyneth Paltrow says relationship with ex-boyfriend Ben Affleck was a 'lesson'

Paltrow had revealed to Stern previously that, at the time, Affleck 'was not in a good place in his life to have a girlfriend'


                            Gwyneth Paltrow says relationship with ex-boyfriend Ben Affleck was a 'lesson'

Gwyneth Paltrow is in total dishing mood and the newest victim of her revelations is her ex-boyfriend Ben Affleck. In a recent conversation with Howard Stern on his SiriusXM radio show on Wednesday, the Oscar winner revealed the reason why she never married Affleck.

“How did you know not to marry him? You were never in love with him,” Stern asked about Affleck who Paltrow dated on-and-off for three years. “It’s interesting, I think there’s certain boyfriends where you are trying to work stuff out, right?” she replied. “Like, you’re trying to heal certain stuff from your childhood and he was very much a lesson in that way.”

“I’m not sure exactly what I was trying to heal in that instance, but, you know, it was specific,” the 45-year-old continued. Paltrow, who is now engaged to Brad Falchuk, is not talking about her relationship with the Justice League star for the first time.

Actors Ben Affleck, as Buddy Amaral, a hot shot urban ad executive, and Gwyneth Paltrow as Abby Janello, a struggling single mom, act in a scene from Don Ross's Bounce (Photo by Eric Lee/Miramax Films/Newsmakers)
Actors Ben Affleck, as Buddy Amaral, a hot shot urban ad executive, and Gwyneth Paltrow as Abby Janello, a struggling single mom, act in a scene from Don Ross's Bounce (Photo by Eric Lee/Miramax Films/Newsmakers)

Back in 2015, Paltrow had also revealed to Stern how Affleck “was not in a good place in his life to have a girlfriend” at the time. She also said that her parents “were OK with the two of us not being together,” even though they did appreciate his super intelligence.

The actress also briefly spoke about her ex-husband, Chris Martin, who she dated right after she broke up with Affleck. The actress talked about their friendly divorce, and how easy it is for them to co-parent without major conflicts.

Paltrow explained, "Really the question becomes how much of your ego is ready to check at the door? And can you let go of spite? Because if you can do those things, you can absolutely have a friendly divorce."

"If there are kids involved, ya know, Chris and I had days especially in the beginning where it was really hard. I didn't want to see him," she shared. "I didn't want to eat dinner with him. And he didn't want to eat dinner with me."

Chris Martin and Gwyneth Paltrow in Culver City, California on January 28, 2014 (Photo by Charley Gallay/Getty Images)
Chris Martin and Gwyneth Paltrow in Culver City, California on January 28, 2014 (Photo by Charley Gallay/Getty Images)

The actress also ended up revealing that she does not want any more kids and, apparently, neither does her fiancee Falchuk. “This is his second marriage … Neither of us wants more kids,” the mother of two said. “We’re on the same team,” Paltrow added.

Paltrow has two children from her former marriage to Martin, 12-year-old Moses Bruce Anthony, and 14-year-old Apple Blythe Alison. On the other hand, Falchuk too has two kids from his previous marriage with Suzanne Bukinik, son Brody and daughter Isabella. Falchuk was married to Bukinik for 10 years before he filed for divorce in 2013.