Why Demi Lovato cut ties with exes Joe Jonas and Wilmer Valderrama? Singer reveals the real reason

'I had to learn that not setting boundaries put me in the position I was in,' said Demi
UPDATED APR 25, 2020
Joe Jonas, Demi Lovato, Wilmer Valderrama (Getty Images)
Joe Jonas, Demi Lovato, Wilmer Valderrama (Getty Images)

Demi Lovato has been rewired and brimming with positive energy. The 'Tell Me You Love' singer is all set to restart her music career and be seen more often in public. Speaking to Jameela Jamil on her I-Weigh podcast, explained why she cut off ties with exes and old friends.

Demi shared that there was a time she would obsess about mending relationships after they would go sour but not anymore. Today, the singer is at a point in life, where letting go of people seems to her as the best way to deal with life and its many problems. 

"I had to learn that not setting boundaries put me in the position I was in. Talking about every detail of every part of my life, whether it be a relationship or whether it be my recovery, nothing was sacred to me anymore," she told Jameela

She said the 90-day drug rehab program she enrolled in following an overdose episode in July 2018 helped prepare her for self-isolation. This possibly helped her gain a fresh perspective toward life as well. Demi hasn't been in touch with exes Joe Jonas and Wilmer Eduardo Valderrama or even her friend from Disney days, Selena Gomez. Demi and Wilmer dated for six years before going separate ways in 2016. 

Joe Jonas is now married to 'Game of Thrones' star Sophie Turner, while Wilmer announced engagement with Amanda Pacheco on New Year's day this year. "I was afraid of fully letting go of people. And now that I’ve been able to fully let go out of people, that was another thing that I’ve had to learn when it comes to coming toxic people out of your life. If they’re an ex, it’s for a reason," the songstress further shared. 

However, she doesn't hold any grudge or malice against people from her past. Demi simply believes it's "unhealthy" and "unrealistic" to maintain cordial relationships with exes. "I’m not really friends with any of my exes today because I had to realize that that wasn’t healthy either," she said. "Trying to maintain close friendships with some of my exes just isn’t realistic," she further elaborated.

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