Chloe Dykstra's final texts to ex Chris Hardwick reveal she begged to get back with him
Texts reveal that Chris Hardwick believed Chloe Dykstra's infidelity was the "worst thing that anyone ever did" to him.
For Chris Hardwick and Chloe Dykstra, the break-up-get-back-together cycle may have came to an ugly halt four years ago but it seems like they are far from burying the hatchet.
Last week, the actress wrote an essay titled Rose-Colored Glasses: A Confession for Medium in which she claimed that her ex abused her mentally and sexually assaulted her during the course of their three-year relationship.
Though she does not name him, she did mention a reference of the 20 years age-gap between the couple and how they met at a convention, clearing indicating that the piece is about Chris.
TMZ, however, recently obtained some text messages that were exchanged between the former couple, which confirm all the claims Chris made about their fallout.
In 2014, Chris ended things with Chloe, accusing her of cheating on him with a man named Sam. Reportedly, the two were patching things up after a 'break' when Chris learned of her infidelity. He called it “the worst thing anyone has ever done" to him.
TMZ reported, Chris sent a long, emotional text message to Chloe, clearly stating that he did not want to speak to her anymore. In response to his message, Chloe sent him a couple of messages begging him to let her explain things. When she didn't receive a response, she resigned with a final text, which read: “I will always love you.”
Overcome by emotion, seven months later, Chloe again tried to reach out to Chris, asking, “when can we be okay? We both handled this poorly. Possibly myself moreso.” But she ended the one-sided conversation with a quick change in tone. She wrote, “I’m sorry I shouldn’t have texted you. I think I just got caught up in a wave. I hope things are awesome with you.”
Chris seemed to have moved on since then and is currently married to model and heiress Lydia Hearst.
Chloe started off the essay by saying that she is writing not to point fingers but rather as a mean of therapy to let go of built-up anger and hurt. She revealed that her relationship “started out poorly,” and how within the first two weeks, she was given a list of rules to follow like reserving the nights for him, for he had a rather "busy schedule" during the day.
The list continued. She further wrote, “I was to not have close male friends unless we worked together. All photos of male friends were to be removed from my apartment. This was heartbreaking for me, as my best friend happened to be male.”
She was also not permitted to drink alcohol as her significant other was "sober." Chris has been open about his struggles with alcohol addiction. She wrote: “Before we began dating he said, 'I noticed you have a glass of wine with dinner. That's going to stop.”
This was not the end of the list. Chloe went on to write about some other rules that involved remaining "silent in public spaces" to prevent other people from listening in on their conversations. “Our dinners out were usually silent, him on his phone,” she wrote. Initially, he was not comfortable with the idea of them taking photos together but eventually warmed up to the idea. But she always had to take permission first.
“These were just a few of them. And I made the choice to accept his controlling behavior, as he'd just left his long-term girlfriend and I assumed that he was going through some serious emotional discomfort. This was a huge mistake,” she wrote.
She also accused her ex of sexually assaulting her. She wrote: “I was expected to be ready for him when he came home from work. ... Every night, I laid there for him, occasionally in tears. He thought the whole idea was funny. To be fair, I did go along with it out of fear of losing him.”
She painted a rather bleak picture of her relationship with her words, saying that she was constantly snapped at and rarely shown love. And after three years of abuse, she finally decided to end things with him. She also wrote about the severe effects the trauma of the relationship had on her mental and physical health. She writes about battling anorexia and attempting to commit suicide multiple times.
In response to Chloe’s essay, he issued a statement denying all the allegations. In the statement Chris said: “I was heartbroken to read Chloe's post. Our three-year relationship was not perfect - we were ultimately not a good match and argued - even shouted at each other - but I loved her and did my best to uplift and support her as a partner and companion in any way and at no time did I sexually assault her.
He added, "When we were living together, I found out that Chloe cheated on me, and I ended the relationship. For several week after we broke up, she asked me to get back together with me and even told me she wanted to have kids with me, 'build a life' with me and told me that I was 'the one,' but I did not want to be with someone who was unfaithful.
“I'm devastated to read that she is now accusing me of conduct that did not occur. I was blindsided by her post and always wanted the best for her. As a husband, a son, and future father, I do not condone any kind of mistreatment of women.”