'Bears' singer and writer Tom Goss set to release body-positive song 'Round at all the right places'
"It’s no surprise to me that we’re seeing the male body-positivity movement gain momentum in the gay community," Goss said.
The burden of being a certain body type is real, as we have narrowed the definition of beauty. The most encountered problem is with body size. Tom Goss is one of the pop singers, who talks about this problem and asks people to embrace their body in whatever shape and size it is. Goss' main target audience is plus-size gay men, who constantly are told to be stylish, slim and fit. This has only made a negative impact on the psychology of plus-size gay men.
Goss, a pop singer attracted to plus-size men, took time to make plus-size men feel comfortable in their own skin. He has expressed his admiration for plus-size men in many songs he has written and composed, one of which is called "Bears". In male gay culture, a bear is often a larger or obese hairier man who projects an image of rugged masculinity. The song became very popular and is often played in many gay bars. Goss is coming up with another great song "Round in all the right places" and the song is a follow-up to "Bears".
"I wanted to write a follow up to “Bears” but I wanted it to be less campy and much more direct. That said, I am not round myself, so I also wanted it to be sensitive and honest. When I sat down to write, I got a text from a friend of mine in Atlanta. He’s very sweet, very round and very beautiful. We started a conversation about his body, what he liked and what he didn’t. I was surprised by some of the things he said. I realized that I wanted to write about the things he hated about his body. Not to highlight his insecurities, but to do the opposite, to show him how I see his body. The things he hated about his body, I found beautiful. I wanted him, and other people who listen, to have a wrench thrown in their negative ideals of themselves," Goss said.
Society is divided when it comes to plus-size people. On the one hand people are asked to love themselves as they are, on the other there are those who shame them. Then there are people who shame plus-size people and at the same time call them out for being so negative about their body.
Goss said: "The world is telling plus sized people that their butts are sagging and their bellies are too flabby. 'Change who you are, lose it at all costs,’ we’re told. Then we wonder why people often view themselves in a negative light. I want to send some messaging out into the world that says the opposite.” As interesting as it sounds, Goss makes it clear this song is more "sultry, sexy and groovy" than "Bears" but nevertheless "it’s still super fun!".
When it comes to movements like body-positivity, women are the main subjects. We completely forget about men, who may also face such problems. Goss doesn't only realize the importance of body-positive movements going around but says the movement is gaining momentum in the gay community.
"As a general rule, I don’t think there is as much pressure on men to adhere to one specific body type. However, I do think that changes when we look at the gay community. There is a lot more pressure on gay men to be fit, thin, stylish etc… It’s no surprise to me that we’re seeing the male body positivity movement gain momentum in the gay community," Goss said.
Apart from writing the song, Goss has also directed and co-produced the song with additional production and cinematography by Nathaniël Siri. “I couldn’t be happier with the visuals, and the beautiful men behind the visuals,” Tom continued. “Yes, I absolutely objectify the men, but I’m careful to do it in a way that is respectful, artistic and focused on that which makes them beautiful and unique. Too often in media, large men are painted as villains or buffoons; the butt of a joke. The goal here was to uplift and empower men of size and embrace their beauty," explained Goss.
This song, might look into the society's stereotypical standards of beauty and may shed light on the importance of embracing yourself. Goss will be releasing another record called 'Territories' which is set to release in 2019.
Goss said: "I’m finishing up a new record called 'Territories.' I’m so excited for people to hear it. Keep an eye out in early 2019!"
The video is a universal message to all people who are insecure about their body and not just plus-size men. Goss urged, "Everyone should see the beauty in themselves and love every inch of their bodies." 'Round at all the right places' releases on iTunes, Spotify and other major digital platforms on October 12.