‘Don't let nana se this': 26-year-old mum scrawls heart-wrenching note on wall before killing herself
Carly Hemmings killed herself in December last year, with an inquest into her death hearing how the 26-year-old suffered from a host of mental health issues
Details have begun to emerge in the death of 26-year-old mother Carly Hemmings, who tragically killed herself on December 11, last year. One of the most tearjerking facts to come out recently was how, before she took her life, she dialed the police and asked them not to let her "nana" find her.
According to the Daily Mail, she had also scrawled the same message across the walls of her home in Ryton on Tyne, writing, "Don't let my nana see me like this" and also, "Tell my son I love him". She had also called the police and said, "Can you do me a favor? I don't want my nana to find this."
An inquest into her death heard how the 26-year-old was struggling with mental health issues stemming from a host of problems and how she was heavily reliant on alcohol at the time of her death. A toxicology report showed she had high levels of alcohol in her body after she killed herself.
One of the issues she was stressing over at the time of her death was reportedly concerning authorities informing her that a man who sexually assaulted her could not be charged. Another was a custody battle over her son. The inquest also heard how she had been suffering from postnatal depression and had attempted to take her life on previous occasions as well.
Just a few days before she committed suicide, Hemmings was admitted to the accident and emergency ward at the Queen Elizabeth Hospital in Gateshead. Mental health nurse Val Tippings, who had examined her, told the inquest that the 26-year-old was initially "hostile", but later agreed to see the community mental health team. However, she did not follow through and was found dead five days later.
Her general pediatrician, Dr. Elsa Randles, testified that the mother only contemplated suicide when she was drunk. "When she had upsetting news, she started drinking alcohol, which would progress to the use of drugs or self-harming," she said.
Coroner Terrence Carney ruled that Hemmings' death was accidental, stating he believed the 26-year-old did not intend to take her own life. "She displayed emotionally unstable personality traits and clearly had been beset by a number of personal crises," he said.
"There were instances where life was getting too much for her. I don't believe at any stage she intended to die or that she wanted to die. Sadly she took a grave risk that day. She had taken on board a substantial amount of alcohol which had impaired her thinking."
Her grandfather said she was a "beautiful girl with an infectious smile and a sense of humor," expressing regret over not being there for her enough. "We do get upset, we do feel as if we could have done more if we had known the full extent of her problems, but she was such a proud person and I don't think she liked asking for help," he said.
Her family also paid tribute to her, releasing a statement which read, "This year has been a long and emotional one. Today may give us some closure, however, she will be in our thoughts forever. Carly suffered from mental health problems, which eventually took her life. We remember Carly as a daughter, sister, granddaughter, cousin and, most of all, a loving mother to Mason, who was only six when his mama was taken from him."