Woman wore makeup to cover acne but boyfriend saw her without it on a vacation and then dumped her
Anonymous woman reveals how her shallow boyfriend dumped her and refused to see her again after seeing what she looked like with no makeup.
A woman revealed how she was dumped by her boyfriend who flatly refused to ever see her again and also accused her of 'catfishing' when he saw what she looked like without the use of make-up to cover up her acne.
The anonymous 20-year-old woman who is believed to be from the US revealed on Reddit that she has hormonal acne and often has breakouts on her cheeks and chin. The woman had attempted to cover up all the acne while on the first six dates and then decided to do away with the makeup while on a weekend trip with her boyfriend and friends. She shared, "At first, he didn't say anything, just looked at me a bit weird. When we were alone, he just told me that he didn't know I had acne like that. After that, he's been acting distant the whole trip."
"When we got home that night, he said that it would be for the best to stop seeing each other because he doesn't like me anymore. As the very last thing, he said that I shouldn't lead people on like that," she added. The woman wrote in the 'Am I the a**hole' column, "I'm 20 years old. Me and that guy (also 20) have been on 6 dates before the incident and everything was going well before that."
"My acne is caused by my hormonal issues. These are the most accurate pics I could take - some of the spots are a bit redder in reality, but it's not a dramatic difference. I don't have breakouts on my forehead or anywhere else on my body. I usually cover up my acne with make-up - however, that's the only thing I do on my face make-up wise, so I don't look like a completely different person when I'm make-up less," the woman revealed.
"This weekend, me, the guy and a few of our mutual friends went on a backpacking trip and he saw me with no make-up for the first time," she wrote. She then revealed how the boyfriend had dumped her as he suddenly did not 'like' her and felt like she had been leading him on. "I feel like I dodged a bullet here, but at the same time, it haunts me that he thinks I'm catfishing people and I wonder if anyone else feels the same way."
"I wear make-up because I'm not the biggest fan of my acne and because it makes me feel a bit more confident," she continued before revealing that the former boyfriend had broken up with his ex as she had changed her hairstyle. "I asked mutuals about that guy and apparently he broke up with his ex because she cut her hair short. Just thought you might be interested in knowing. So yeah, definitely dodged a bullet."
"I made this thread because he told me that I lead him on and that I'm catfishing guys by putting make-up on. I didn't feel like I've done something inherently wrong, but a lot of people around me seemed to agree with him on this - but since make-up is generally frowned upon where I live, I wanted opinions from a more diverse sample of people, if you will. Just thought I'd clarify because some people thought that I was seeking validation. Trust me, if I wanted validation I'd go to my loved ones," she continued.
Reddit users seemed to be on her side and commented, "You’re definitely not catfishing anyone by wearing make-up. I mean acne isn’t a huge deal for normal people, potential boyfriend sounds like a really shallow guy to break up over something like that." Another user shared, "Yeah this guy is gonna have a real fun life with standards that high."