10 distinct ways in which people react after their breakup
There are 10 ways of coping with a breakup, which one do you use?
Breakups can be rough and often times it leaves people wondering what went wrong. The reason for the breakup could be anything and it doesn't matter whose fault it is but how you cope with the breakup is what defines you as a person.
Here, we define 10 ways in which people react after a breakup. Find out which one matches yours.
#1 The smooth operator
Not everyone takes a breakup badly. Some people are calm and composed enough to look at things objectively and they understand that if they did break up, it was probably for the best. They do not throw tantrums nor do they bother their ex. They start working on their own selves and try to move on.
These are the kind of people who understand and not judge. They have confidence in themselves and even though the break up may hurt, they know that there's no use crying over spilled milk. They take the break up in their stride and move further to get on with their lives.
#2 The bitter deal
Some people can go really aggressive and loud after a breakup. They feel bitter at each and every aspect of the broken relationship and they love pointing fingers. They get high on the blame game and they probably tell this to everyone who may be willing to listen.
The bitterness gets to them and they take the break up personally. They do not care what they say or how mean they get as long as they get to shout their lungs out. It is never their fault if they are to be believed and they would make sure that their bitterness is out on display.
#3 Exaggerate everything
Some people end up exaggerating everything after their break up. It is their way of proving that they had the better deal after the breakup and that it is the other person's loss. They would go on social media, post images of them having fun somewhere, and put up statuses in a passive-aggressive way. Their eagerness to prove their own good life makes them lose control of their acts.
#4 Hate the gender
It often happens that people, after breaking up, blame the entire gender for being that way. A guy may, for example, end up saying that 'all girls are the same' and the same is true for women as well. They generalize their hatred and blame an entire gender for the breakup in which they were equally involved.
#5 Go hopeless
'There is no hope for me', 'I would never find love', etc. These are some of the lines you would hear from a person who feels that all hope is lost and there is nothing that they can do about it. The moan and grumble and start pitying themselves instead of understanding that a break up is part of life. Moving on, for them, becomes really difficult as they themselves force their thoughts into an emotional abyss.
#6 Shut out the world
Close the doors, pull down the curtains, and sit curled in a dark corner of the room. There are quite a few people who shut themselves in after a breakup. They feel like there's nothing or no one for them out in the world and that they are completely alone in their troubled times. So, instead of finding ways of moving on, they find ways of moving backward which is just the thing one is not supposed to do.
#7 Enemy of your enemy is a friend
Sometimes, when one of the partners is especially bitter, they would start befriending their ex's previous ex. They, in a way, feel closer to the ex of their ex and they like forming a group wherein they can talk nonsense about their mutual ex. This is not only a sad behavior but also something which is rude and uncalled for.
#8 Go Crazy
There are some people who go crazy after a breakup. They lose their minds and start acting out. They get really aggressive, may start stalking their ex, drunk calling them, or harassing them in some way. They feel that doing these things may help them get their love back but it further drives them away apart from causing major trouble for the ex as well.
#9 Refresh friendship
There are, then, some people who go back to their friends for help, which is actually a healthy thing to do. They start reconnecting with old friends and spend more time in the company of those who are close. It is a good way of feeling loved and needed and it helps in finding closure as well.
#10 The Mess
Shutting out and feeling hopeless is one thing but there are some who completely lose the plot. They get sad and then depressed. While they may be in public and in the company of their friends but their behavior would show that they are a complete mess. They would not laugh as brightly or be a part of the conversation and may sulk in a corner. It is not the best way to deal with a breakup but it is the most important time when they need their friends.
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