These 7 signs will help you figure out if a narcissist is trying to sneak into your life
Narcissists are everywhere and before you pal up with everyone, these are some signs to help you avoid people who will constantly tax your mind, body, and soul.
Who is a narcissist? It is someone who is constantly bringing you down and emotionally and physically draining of all your energy. They start to sneak into your life in subtle ways and before you know it, they have you doing things that you never ever saw coming. There are certain characteristics that most narcissists seem to have and having an idea of this could help you avoid getting into a situation which will grow more and more complex by the day.
It is also almost impossible to reason with a narcissist and no matter what you tell them, the entire situation will be reversed and shot back at you. It is best to know who these people are and how you can keep your distance with them.
#7 They are always causing you emotional pain
These people tend to inflict a lot of emotional pain and will drain you. Some of them are even capable of physical pain which can be dangerous to you as well as all those around you. When these people get triggered, they won't see any logic or reason except that they have been offended and they need to lash out. Most of their lashing out involve some sort of mental and psychological warfare which is just exhausting.
Narcissists derive some twisted pleasure from being in control of someone else's emotions and knowing that they have the power to make them feel miserable and in despair. When they are confronted, they will somehow make the entire situation about them without so much as an iota of concern for anyone else's feelings. Don't even bother arguing as they will never see their flaws.
#6 Ignore all safety standards and personal boundaries
Narcissists love getting away with anything and everything that they do and they will not be the ones to stand up to their mistakes and deal with the consequences of their actions. They have a liking to avoid facing the consequences of their actions and tend to have absolutely no regard for anyone's feelings or problems but their own. So don't expect them to mind your space and boundaries.
No matter how convincing they seem of their promises to change their behavior, they will not be able to help but violate rules without any concern for what could happen next. It is as though you need to be watching their every move because of how unpredictable and erratic their moods are.
#5 Have no sense of reality
These people have a seriously flawed sense of reality and it is as though they are living in some sort of an alternate reality. They will never want to face the harsh truth or accept anything but what they would like to believe and know. No amount of talking and convincing will make them see the situation for what it is versus for what they want it to be.
More often than not, not only do they refuse to accept any blame but they try and project that blame and frustration onto someone else. In the rare case they are aware of the reality of the situation, they will find other ways to deflect blame onto people and things. It is unlikely that they will see the errors of their ways anytime soon.
#4 Always spin the truth
You will never be sure of what they say and whether it is true or not. It can get pretty exhausting around such people as they will constantly manipulate the truth to suit whatever sort of situation that they are in. The problem is that they are easily intimated and will always tend to be in situations where they are given the most attention and are pampered and spoilt.
Despite the confident and hard exterior that they may have they are actually pretty jelly-like on the inside and will not have the courage to deal with any sort of confrontation or problem. They will never be able to stand by the truth and will have the urge to spin the story in their way.
#3 Strong sense of entitlement
Narcissists are people who are of the belief that the entire world is centered around them and what they want is everyone else's command. Even though most people know that life, unfortunately, does not work that way, these people will function as though that is the reality anyway. They are the type of people who tend to take everything for granted and do not appreciate that life is hard work and not everyone is lucky enough to have a good life.
In whatever situation they are in, they will not hold back from pointing out all that is theirs. They often have an extremely high sense of righteousness but only when it comes to their well-being. They will be willing to step over other people to get where they want to without any remorse or regret of hurting them.
#2 Constantly shape-shift
You will never really know what these people want and that changes every day but no matter what it is they will just have to have things going their way. In order to get their way or get what they want, they are willing to change themselves completely to manipulate the situation and succeed. It is not just that they want something but it is also the fact that they believe that they deserve it.
They believe that they have earned the right to get what they want and it does not matter whether they have actually physically done something or not.
#1 Crave attention
This is the biggest problem that narcissists have and they are always wanting to be the center of attention. If for whatever reason, they are not getting the attention and love they think they deserve they will create scenarios and situations which will compel people to sympathize with them and give them the care they think they deserve. They often reveal this fact themselves and are well aware of how needy they are.
Whether they whine, cry, complain, get angry, get violent, and steal, they always want to be the one that people look at and fawn over.
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