7 things to do when your partner loses their job
Sometimes, life throws us a difficult phase but here is how you can help your loved one get through it!
In this day and age, with the ever-growing population and talent it is not new for a person to be out of a job even if it is for just a short period of time. Being unemployed or losing your job tends to shake up people's self-esteem and confidence and they will constantly feel as though they have let themselves down.
However, that is not at all the case and it is important that you help your partner deal with the situation. Remember, losing your job is not the end of the world and you can always look out for other opportunities. These are seven ways in which you can help your partner deal with a loss of job:
#7 Keep things in perspective
It is very important to let your partner know and understand that losing a job or being unemployed is not the end of the world and there is scope to do many other things. Don't allow your partner to blow things out of perspective and be completely let down.
There is a lot of benefit from talking and keeping the lines of communication open. At this particular point of time, your partner is probably feeling extremely vulnerable and needs to be reminded that things will work out. Your role is to help them keep things in perspective.
#6 Help to solve the problem if possible
Your partner does not expect you to have all the answers and so do not try to impose your solutions and opinions. Remember, at this particular time you need to help your partner in the way they need and not in a way that would make you feel better.
Addressing unemployment is a tricky task and you need to prove to your partner that you are there to help and only want to make the situation better. It is possible that your partner may get angry, upset, and defensive when it comes to such conversations, but if you can logically explain and suggest some solutions they will be grateful.
#5 Give them time and space to grief
Getting laid off from work or quitting your job can be mentally taxing and the person going through it needs some time and space to be able to deal with the problems. All people tend to react to situations differently and it is important that you try and understand what your partner is going through.
Don't try and rush them into getting another job or make them feel bad for losing their job but instead, allow them the time and space to process the loss and change. It may not even be grief but it is a significant change which people need time to adjust to.
#4 Be smart and tactful in your approach
When it comes to sensitive situations like this, one needs to be smart as well as tactful in their approach as saying something wrong or insensitive can make such situations a whole lot worse. In a relationship when one partner is out of work, they could already be feeling useless and inadequate and it is best that you do not add to it.
When one partner is out of a job, sometimes it brings about a disbalance in the relationship. In case you are in one of those situations where you can feel a sense of resentment coming over you, it is advisable that you directly deal with it in an open and sensitive way.
#3 Don't overdo the pity
There is a big difference between being sensitive and concerned and being overly dramatic. Don't treat the unemployment as though there is nothing else as important. You should be firm yet understanding for your partner to start to move on.
The moment you start to overdo the pity and the sympathy, the whole act of being there for your partner looks fake — as though you are only saying nice things for the heck of it.
#2 Observe their mood
When an individual goes through any sort of major changes in their lives, you should definitely observe their mood and mood swings. Try and do this when they do not know that you are watching and only then will you get a sense of how they are dealing with the situation.
There are studies which have found that there is a link between unemployment and disorders such as anxiety and depression. It is important that you keep a close watch on how your partner is behaving. Try and lighten their burden by keeping them distracted and feeling loved.
#1 Discuss and validate
Many people feel low and embarrassed about losing their job and feel as though they have something to be ashamed of. More often than not, what tends to happen is the partner who is facing unemployment does not know how to tell their partner that they are suffering. It is normally the first couple of days that are difficult, and eventually, we are forced to adapt and adjust to any sorts of changes in our lives.
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