New study says women are happier with less attractive men...how happy are you?
The secret to a long lasting relationship might be an unattractive partner - and here's how -
"If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So from my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you."
Jimmy Soul knew it in 1960's when he wrote his song If You Wanna Be Happy. Now, psychologists and scientists know it everywhere.
The idea started off with the preconceived notion that if you have a wife who is beautiful, she will be high maintenance because she will expect a lot in return from her beauty, in contrast to a woman who is not fortuned with good looks and will only be grateful to her husband for having her at all. She will never be disloyal because she will always believe she has found more than she deserved in you. However, this idea today is considered extremely sexist and rude.
Well, reverse the roles and you'll see some truth in this, as has been proved by a study at Florida State University. They concluded that heterosexual relationships and marriages tend to be more successful when the female is the more attractive of the two. They examined 113 newlywed couples in their late 20s near Dallas. They had only one thing in common - where they had been married less than four months.
They were asked to be rated on their attractiveness by researchers from Southern Methodist University and Florida State University. They were then given questionnaires to fill in regards to their desire and actions towards becoming more fit and attractive to increase the intimacy between them and their partners.
"The results reveal that having a physically attractive husband may have negative consequences for wives, especially if those wives are not particularly attractive," says researcher Tania Reynolds.
"The research suggests there might be social factors playing a role in women's disordered eating," she adds.
They further studied to find that women who had more attractive husbands were more keen on dieting and losing weight to look more attractive - thus not being their normal self in the relationship and instead of trying to be someone else. They seemed to be fighting a battle with their figure with the end goal of achieving happiness in their relationship.
"In contrast, men's dieting motivations were not significantly associated with their own and their partners' attractiveness," says Tania.
From a man's perspective, the study found that "husbands seemed to be basically more committed, more invested in pleasing their wives when they felt that they were getting a pretty good deal."
Based on a similar research study published in the Wall Street Journal - researchers explain the criteria that work against most women when they write, “attractive men don’t make the best husbands.” Larson quotes from this research, “Guys who are rated as the most masculine - a billboard for a man’s good genes - tend to have more testosterone, and men with higher testosterone levels are 43 percent more likely to get divorced than men with normal levels, 31 percent more likely to split because of marital problems and 38 percent more likely to cheat. In other words, they may be better cads than dads.”
They further elaborate saying, “We’d be smarter if we sought out guys who are uglier than we are because researchers have found that couples in which the woman is hotter than the guy are happier than if the situation is reversed.”
The NY Daily News sums it perfectly when it says - “He may be a dog, ladies, but he’ll keep you happy,” (at least for a while).
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