10 important things to note before you discipline a child
Disciplining your child is a tricky subject and all parents want to do what is best. This is some advice to help you out!
Being a parent is certainly not easy and you can never be sure that your method of parenting is the best one. All parents try their level best to produce good and caring children who will continue to value and uphold the name of your family. Of course, this is not an easy job and it is only natural for children to challenge their parents from time to time.
Instead of resorting to harsh disciplinary methods, there are many other ways of getting your point across in a way that works for both you and your child. Discipline in moderation and reason can work wonders for your child but overdoing it can prove to be disastrous.
As a parent, it is natural for you to want the best for your child and for your child to not make your mistakes and suffer your pain. The problem is most children will never see it that way and will be willing to make their own mistakes to learn.
It is important that the two of you find some sort of a balance and platform where there are certain unbreakable rules. These are a few things to be aware of when it comes to disciplining your child:
#10 Set the right example versus discipline
Children learn best from observation and mirror what they see and hear around them. Most parents who take it upon themselves to set a good example by action do not need to discipline their children as much. It is much more likely that the child tries to mimic the parent's good attitude and behavior rather than need to be scolded or corrected. This does not mean that the child is perfect but that the need for discipline is less if they are already more or less well behaved.
#9 Facing the natural consequences is more effective
It is a much better solution to let your child face the natural consequences of their mistake as lessons are better learned by experience. It is natural for your child to not want to listen to you or to lash out at you but the outside world is not so easy and there are always consequences to the things we do and say.
#8 Denying certain privileges
This is a very effective way of disciplining your child and teaching them the value of things. When your child misbehaves or breaks rules, you can deny them of certain privileges like no tv time or confiscate their phone until they are able to make amends for the mistakes they have made. This will teach them, with privileges comes responsibility.
#7 Logical discipline
The concept of logical discipline is linked to behavior. You can explain things to your child in this way and show them the consequences of misbehaving. As WebMD puts it, For example, "You tell your child that if he doesn’t pick up his toys, then those toys will be removed for a week."
#6 Negative discipline is pointless
Negative discipline, on the other hand, is totally counterproductive and makes absolutely no sense. It can also be potentially harmful psychologically and leave your child feeling scared and neglected. By no means should you strike your child or verbally abuse him/her. These methods are ineffective and it is much better to use alternate methods which would help your child be a better person.
#5 Positive discipline is paramount
It is always good to set an example and show your child the way rather than just tell them. Beyond a point, children are not able to put things into action if they do not know how to and so it is important that positive discipline is used. Help your child understand what they did wrong and why they should not do it.
#4 Discipline keeps kids safe
Discipline in moderation and making sure your child has a regard for some rules keeps them safe and possibly out of trouble. They must be aware of the consequences of their actions. A certain amount of discipline allows the parent to be in control of their child while allowing them certain benefits and rewards for behaving well.
#3 Discipline teaches kids to manage emotions properly
Regulation and discipline also helps your children understand how to handle their emotions and communicate in an effective way. Being disrespectful and showing anger is something which should be discouraged as this can become a habit and also be shown outside of the safe walls of your home.
#2 Discipline helps to make better choices
Being disciplined and self-regulated helps your child to make better choices for themselves, choices that they will eventually be grateful for. For example, going to bed on time in order to wake up early for a quick revision is a great discipline to follow to perform well during tests and exams. Or making it a habit to keep things back in the proper place only leads to a clean and uncluttered mind.
#1 Discipline helps kids manage anxiety
When certain positive, as well as negative reinforcements, are on offer, kids tend to fall in line and understand their mistakes better. There is a difference between being overly invasive and overdoing the punishment and discipline with reason, the former one can lead to a lot of anxiety and self-doubt in your child while the latter will help you reason and explain things to them in a much more effective way.
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