Bachelor in Paradise: Kristina Schulman's exit from love triangle is a lesson for every girl who's been rejected
Things got real on the latest episode of Bachelor in Paradise. Kristina Schulman was supposed to hand out a rose to her love interest but instead, she decided to make her exit. Why? Schulman said she couldn't stay on and wait for Dean Ungler to make up his mind between her and Danielle Lombard, a.k.a. D-Lo. The emotionally charged season 4 episode 8 captured a teary-eyed Schulman who said she deserves better than a man who flits in and out of relationships. In the end, it wasn't easy for her but Schulman decided to save her heart from more pain.
Of course, the rest of the contestants got awkward as they usually do when emotions are involved. In fact, the premise of Bachelor in Paradise is centered on relationships which are so casual that one is forced to think if emotions are invested at all. But Schulman's exit, one of those rare, raw moments on Bachelor Nation, makes the show a little real and more believable.
Schulman's conflict on whether to hold a candle or move on from Ungler was all too relatable. She was hurt when she found him kissing D. Lo but was convinced that they could still have a chance to be together. She told herself that she has a better connection with Ungler and even got into a fight with co-star Raven Gates who forced her to look at the events that took place.
To be honest, Schulman is just like many other women who've not wanted to let go even if their love interest is vying for another person's attention. We've all been there; we've not wanted to confront rejection even if its staring us in the face. We make up reasons to stay in a one-sided relationship, hoping it will transform. But the truth is, it takes strength and courage to face the fact that relationships don't always have that transformative power and that's what Schulman did it on Bachelor in Paradise.
She found clarity through her confusion when she finally said, "Everything you’ve said about me … means nothing. You have no idea how much it stung. know I deserve better than that." Schulman stopped fighting for a person who didn't fight to be with her.
Instead of being petty about it, she ket her maturity shine when she wished him good luck with D.Lo and even had charming things to say about her. That's what real women do when they're rejected in love- they hold onto their self-esteem and walk out, knowing that there's someone who will love them in equal measure.