We don't know what to say.
Relationships in which you can talk, kiss, cuddle, have a conversation, are the norm.
But there are relationships that exist outside the purview of normalcy and Carol's relationship with the love of her life is anything but normal by any means or definition.
45-year-old Carol's love affair isn't with a human being, but rather a lifeless object — the Santa Fe station in San Diego, California. She claims to have been in love with the station since she was a toddler and as a full-fledged adult today, she had decided to take her love affair to the next level by marrying the station.
The marriage wasn't recognized by the government, but Carla claimed that she married the station some 18 months ago and their marriage is what dreams are made of.
"When we got married, I stood there and I told her that I take it as my partner," Carol said, who lovingly addresses the station as 'Daidra'. Carol takes a 45-minute bus-ride every day to see her spouse and spend time with Daidra.
"When I get there I say hello to her. I then walk around the block circling around her, trying not to let anyone notice I am talking," she said.
Her love affair with the train station has never culminated in sex, but Carol claimed she has felt bouts of sexual tension between the two. She explained: "There is a private bit where two walls meet, I go there to touch her, which I do by leaning against her with my clothes on. When I'm touching her, I feel as though it actually holds me and kisses me. I don't have physical sex with the station in public, I want to be respectful. I wouldn't do that with a human in public so why would I do it in this case?"
The love for Santa Fe has made Carol fall head over heels and describes Daidra as romantic. She said: "I love her so much, she is so romantic. We first consummated our love a few years ago when I felt the wall behind me, and I felt this energy. I came close to an orgasm and I was scared I’d get caught by the station staff. I don’t ever want the security guards to find out—I am a closet Objectum Sexual."
Carol's case comes under 'Objectum-Sexual'— a form of sexuality that has a particular inanimate object as it's focal point. The term was first discovered by Eija-Riitta Berliner-Mauer, a Swedish woman who, like Carol, claimed to be 'married' to the Berlin Wall from 1979 until her death in 2015.
In 2008, another woman named Arika made headlines after she claimed to have 'married' the Eiffel Tower. She later went on to create the organization OS Internationale, for others who identify as Objectum-Sexuals. In reality, there are 40 women in the world who identify as Objectum-Sexual, many of whom also have Asperger's Syndrome.
According to psychotherapist Jerry Brooker, OS women are motivated by a need for control.
"Someone who falls in love with objects can control that relationship on their own terms," he told the makers of a documentary on the subject. "Their objects will not let them down. That is extremely attractive for a person who is otherwise often desperately lonely," he remarked.
On Carol's part, as a closet Objectum-Sexual, she hasn't let anyone know about her love affair. But that hasn't stopped Carol from loving Daidra. She explained: "Daidra and I chat about normal things, I always tell her how my day has been. I feel really lonely not having anyone to talk to about it. She has been the most stable partner I have ever had. I have had the time of my life being her wife. I used to be scared of being in love with humans, but I’m not scared of Daidra."
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