These two married men are in love with the same woman, and are now a 'throuple'
Never thought we would live to see such a relationship come into existence.
Loves come in all hues and shapes and this couple's love story shouldn't be treated any differently. But wait. This isn't a couple. It's a 'throuple'. And now they're thinking of adopting children together.
For those wondering what is a throuple, it is an unusual arrangement/relationship between three people.
Meet Chris Brandt, 38 and Matt Brandt, 28, from New York, who have been together for almost eight years. And now both are committed to a woman.
Two years ago, they invited Cait Earnest, 28, into their relationship after meeting her on a dating app in 2015. In an interview with The Sun, Chris explained: “At first Matt was completely opposed to the idea but after a while, we talked about it and he warmed up to it.”
Cait, on her part, has come across curious glances and even more awkward questions when she first introduces herself with Chris and Matt in tow. "When we meet somebody at a bar I will usually say 'hi, I’m Cait and these are my two boyfriends.' People often ask if I’m joking," she explained.
After meeting her, the more time they started spending with each other, the bond grew deeper and now, they're attached with each other at the hip.
Chris explained: “The three of us started to spend more and more time together and after about seven or eight months she was staying over five nights a week.”
Sexual dynamism and insecurity
Before meeting Chris and Matt, Cait hadn't ever had sex with more than one person at a time. She said: "I had never been with two people at the same time before. It’s different strokes for different folks but I would say it’s a pretty fun sex life."
Both Cait and Chris associate with bisexuality while Matt defines himself as homoflexible—he prefers men but is open to having sex with women. He explained: "I guess I had an awakening after I had a sexual experience with a woman. It is just another body, another soul, a connection that I can have."
Nine months into their relationship with Cait, both men got married to one another but that did not mean they ended everything with Cait. In fact, they made sure she was with them on their most important day. Matt said: “Even when we got married Cait officiated the wedding, we wanted to make her the most involved as she possibly could be.”
Other than all the love, the road to their unique romance hasn't been a smooth road. They've encountered many problems that come with a trio bonding in this unique way. One of the issues they face quite often is deciding on who will sleep where.
Chris explained: “In regards bed placing, it does complicate things. Matthew and I used to sleep on opposite sides and then Cait came long. If I wanted to stay on the same side Cait would have to be in the middle and we found quickly she didn’t like that.”
Despite the bed placement problem, there's no contesting the fact that they are extremely happy with one another and are inseparable. But like any other relationship, they've faced insecurity and jealousy.
Cait said: “When we first got together I was struggling with the jealousy. With having a very strong connection with Chris and sometimes feeling frustrated that I would have to split time with Matt. But with a lot of that came a lot of insecurity, because I didn’t know where my place was in the relationship.”
Cait wasn't alone in her dilemma. Matt also faced similar fears at the beginning of their romance as a throuple. He said: “It was a struggle even for me. The insecure part of me was like, ‘Chris loves me more because he’s been with me longer’, but then he told me ‘I love you just as much as I love Cait, so I was like, ‘I need to come to terms with that’.”
But all said and done, they cannot stay apart for long and enjoy every bit of being together as a throuple. The one perk of being in a throuple is the number of gifts they receive. Like Matt puts it, there's never a shortage of either occasion or gifts to give one another.
He said: “One of the best things about being in a throuple is that you get more gifts. Holidays, birthdays, we like to celebrate everything!”
The three are serious for one another and are considering having children in the future. But for now, their dogs have all their attention.
Matt said: “As far as kids, I think any child would be lucky to have three parents but we have two dogs for now and that’s enough.”
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