"I don't coddle my children": Woman slammed for making son wear 'I'm a bully' t-shirt to school to teach him a lesson

The mother had been told by the child's teachers in his school that he had been bullying other students by calling them 'idiots' and 'stupid' in his class


                            "I don't coddle my children": Woman slammed for making son wear 'I'm a bully' t-shirt to school to teach him a lesson

A child from Texas was recently forced to wear a t-shirt to school with the words 'I'm a bully' written on the front and the back by his own mother because she had grown tired of his shenanigans. The mother had been told by her son's teachers in school that he would repeatedly bully other students by calling them "idiots" and "stupid" in his class. She said, in an interview, that she wanted to nip his behavior in the bud and came to the conclusion that the only way she could teach him a lesson was to shame him publicly.

Known only as Star, the woman described herself in the interview as an "old-school parent" and said that she believes in having strong morals. Star also said that she stands by her decision to make her son wear the shirt even though she was slammed online for it.

Speaking to KTRK, Star said: "I don't coddle my children. I don't sugar-coat the world to them." She had initially put up the picture of him wearing the shirt before he had left to attend classes at the Splendora Independent School District primary school, but was immediately inundated with negative comments so she took it down. 

She added in the interview: "I posted it to reach out to parents of any of the kids my son may have bullied so that each one of them could get a personal apology. I wanted to know what he learned from it and he said, 'I learned that I didn't like the way that felt and I don't want anybody else to feel that way because of me.' That's exactly what I wanted him to take from it."

A child psychiatrist at Baylor College of Medicine, Dr. Richard Pesikoff, said that he understood why Star was worried about her son's behavior but did not agree with how she handled the situation. He said: "I don't think it requires the scarlet letter, searing the letter 'B' on his forehead. Not a good idea to embarrass your child and solidify a negative identity in an elementary school child. She needs to find somebody to help her and I think the school is one resource."

The surprising aspect of this entire incident was that the teachers at the Splendora Independent School District supported Star with her decision. A spokesperson for the school district said in a statement: "Parents have the rights to make important decisions and take certain actions on behalf of their child. This parent met with our counselor at Greenleaf Elementary School to discuss the student wearing the 'I am a Bully' T-shirt. The counselor, parent and student met with all three of the student's teachers prior to entering the classroom."

"The parent explained her rationale for the student wearing the shirt to the teachers and counselor. Ensuring a safe, physical, emotional and social environment is one of Splendora ISD's Core Principles.  With that in mind, our counselor checked on the child throughout the day on Friday and plans to follow up with the student and the parent early this week."

Star, however, said that she does not think that this is a necessary step. She said: "He'll survive. And he's already been treating his sisters better. He's already been treating his cousins better. He learned from it. That's all that matters."