Mother posts heartbreaking message after brutal bullying lands young daughter in hospital
Bullying needs to stop.
Bullying has tormented many young children all across the world. In America itself, bullying affects nearly one in three school going kids in grades six through ten of which 83 percent are girls and 79 percent are boys. Not surprisingly, more than 160,000 children miss school every day due to fear of harassment by other students.
Under such circumstances, the question remains—is your school-going child really safe in school?
This question comes from Leigh Davey whose young daughter was subjected to bullying in school, albeit social media bullying that steered her to plan her own suicide.
Davey, from Perth, Australia shared a heartbreaking post on Facebook, with an image of her 12-year-old daughter Eva in a hospital bed, with her head gently being stroked by dad Carl.
The reason Eva was in the hospital was that she had planned to commit suicide because she had been subjected to bullying by other students in school for more than seven months.
Davey also revealed that she and her husband had spent more than five hours with Eva - as she talked to psychiatrists, doctors, and nurses about why she had planned to commit suicide.
"Children think it’s ok to send hateful messages on social media"
"In this age of social media, children (because they are children) think it's ok to send hateful messages (to me also along with their parents who won't take responsibility) without consequences," she wrote.
"I've had calls from these children calling me an old hag because I've defended our daughter, approached parents and pleaded with them to talk with their children and ask them to stop."
"I've even approached the children themselves, but been threatened by parents with harassment."
At one point, the bullying went up to to the extent of Eva's bullies posting a Snapchat video that showed Eva sitting at her desk with her legs slightly open and the caption that talked 'about the smell', Davey wrote.
"It was posted to snap chat. I spent 90 mins with the police as they tried to determine if it was photographing and distribution of pornographic material."
Even police weren't able to help Davey as she described the ordeal of a 90-minute call with the police officials about the incident that amounted to nothing. According to police records, the distribution and photographing of the video did not count as an offense.
"Yes, a 12-year-old can be prosecuted if the content breaches certain criteria. Sadly our daughters didn't, but she was subjected to weeks of ridicule," she wrote.
"Teach your child to be resilient against bullies"
Davey further claimed that the local department of education told her to teach Eva to be resistant to bullying and learn how to cope with it: "You should teach your child how to be resilient against bullies," the education department advised Davey.
According to Davey, neither the school nor the education department took any cognizable action against the perpetrators. In the case of the Snapchat video, the unidentified girl got away with only losing her playtime. The person who actually recorded her wasn't caught.
Davey opined that the lack of stringent punishment against bullies is the reason behind the increase in bullying incidents across the world. “It’s ok to verbally attack at school because they can get away with it via a screen,” she wrote. Perhaps this is the reason why most bullies get away with bullying in real life too?
Suicide and crying for help
Davey wrote how Eva had been sent home from school numerous times for self-harming
"She's not allowed a pencil sharpener as she takes the blade out and cuts herself," her mum explained.
By the end of her torturous seven months, Eva had attempted multiple times to kill herself.
“Last week we spent over five hours in Accident & Emergency with psychiatrists, doctors, and nurses because our girl ‘had a plan to commit suicide,’” Leigh wrote.
Even the parents of the bullies weren't ready to help and in the end, Davey had to seek a violence restraining order against “a 12-year-old to keep [the bully] away from our beautiful girl,” she wrote.
In Davey's opinion, the education department and school's idea of a punishment is a facade. The child is, in fact, never really safe, even in school.
“The school has a safety plan for the bullied child, our daughter. And the bully? She only loses recess and lunch privileges. This is infant school punishment!” she wrote.
“It needs to stop and it needs to stop now!”
Despite being fiercely private in reality, Davey took to Facebook to share the traumatic details of her daughter's bullying incident. The reason? To make parents aware and to help other children from being bullied in school.
She has a message for all parents: “Please, in this awful age of social media, check your children’s messages,” she wrote. “Their devices are a privilege, nothing more, nothing less, so please make sure they are being polite and respectful in their messages.
“Teach the children to ‘talk’ and not use text or social media to air their differences,” she wrote.
“Bullying affects the whole family, not just the bullied. It needs to stop and it needs to stop now!”
Since posting the image on September 30, 2017, the post has been shared by more than 33,000 people with more than 67,000 posting their reactions to the same.
"Eva is doing much better"
Towards the end, Davey also shared an update on her daughter's health condition stating that she is 'doing much better.'
“I thought she would freak knowing I’d taken this to social media, but … I told her about the love and support that has reached her globally,” Leigh wrote.
“Eva has had so many messages of support and it’s made her feel so strong albeit overwhelmed. You are all amazing.”
“Eva is doing much better,” Leigh wrote.“You have been amazing and continue to be. The support is just amazing.”
In conclusion, Davey wrote how parents must train their children to be polite and respectful towards others.
"Please make sure they are being polite and respectful in their messages. Teach the children to 'talk' not use text or social media to air their differences."
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