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'You are not my friend': The real reason why Sarah Jessica Parker and Kim Cattrall fell out

The two actresses have not been on good terms and the reason for their fallout dates back to the time when they worked together on the sets of Sex and the city.

Kim Cattrall and Sarah Jessica Parker won the hearts of many with their show Sex And The City and the relationship between Carrie Bradshaw and Samantha Jones was one that stood out the most.

However, things were different in reality. Recently, Kim posted on social media about the death of her brother Chris, who was found dead on his farm in Canada and Sarah decided to be there for her friend with support as she shared her condolences online. 

"Dearest Kim, my love and condolences to you and yours and Godspeed to your beloved brother. Xx," Sarah's tweet read.

But what came after that was a rude shock for all their fans. Rather than being thankful about having someone like Sarah with her, Kim seemed to be furious with the fact that the actress decided to comment on her brother's death. 

Sarah and Kim have been at each other's throat for a long time now (Twitter)

Kim shared a post on Instagram attacking Sarah. "My Mom asked me today 'When will that @sarahjessicaparker, that hypocrite, leave you alone?'" she wrote.

"Your continuous reaching out is a painful reminder of how cruel you really were then and now. Let me make this VERY clear (if I haven't already). You are not my family. You are not my friend. So I'm writing to tell you one last time to stop exploiting our tragedy in order to restore your 'nice girl' persona."

She linked the post to a 2017 New York Post story headlined: "Inside the mean-girls culture that destroyed Sex And The City."

Kim shared this post on Instagram asking Sarah to not show her support (Instagram)

This post by Kim confirmed that things were not great between the ex-co-stars, but the real question  is when did the antagonism start and why?

According to Daily Mail, it all dates back to the time when the two worked together for Sex And The City. The status of the show and their characters seemed to have taken a huge toll on their relationship. 

The report stated that there were days when the atmosphere on the sets of the show would really take a turn to a scene from the movie Mean Girls. According to reports, Sarah, Cynthia Nixon, and Kristin Davis were not really fond of Kim and there were days when the three would go without talking to her.

The only time when they would interact with Kim was when they all had scenes together, and the same would go on for months. 

The sources on the set also reported that the three would often choose to eat their lunch away from Kim. The same applied when they all had to shoot at a different city. They would reportedly ask for different rooms and there was no exchange of gossips or small talks like the ones people saw on the show. 

Things became bad since the time they starred together on the show (Twitter)

Over the years, the reason for hatred between them extended to other things like status and money to the amount of nudity one had to show for love scenes.

While Sarah got to keep her bra on, Kim was asked to bare all at every opportunity as it was believed to be an important part of her character on the show.

But essentially, it all came down to deciding who was a bigger actor. 

Sarah was nominally known as the star of the show as it was presented from the perspective of sex columnist Carrie Bradshaw, which was played by Sarah herself.

From 1998-2004, when the show aired, Sarah was able to get pay raises, promotion to executive editor and ever more say over the series.

On the other hand, Kim did not get so many privileges despite her constant protest. 

Things became so completely out of hand that Kim decided she was done with the show. Despite having two successful spinoffs, she decided to say no to a third one. She often spoke about the same in various interviews but never mentioned that things had become so bad , as evident from her sudden outburst of hatred towards Sarah in her recent post. 

"It has always been a contentious relationship — they were the two alpha dogs on set and it was uncomfortable from day one," a source who worked closely with the show told Daily Mail. "As time went on, Sarah definitely looked down on Kim for her sexpot image and her third divorce."

It is reported that by 2002, Sarah was getting thrice the amount that her co-stars were getting. 

Fame and money became one of the reasons for their fallout (Twitter)

Sarah was getting $1 million per episode compared to others who were getting $350,000. "Sarah was becoming more and more famous, and her salary increased beyond what was contractually committed, which is normal for hit shows. The other actresses wanted to keep up," a source told the tabloid.

However, things changed a lot more when Sarah was given the credit of executive producer. 

According to the source, when Sarah got the credit, she took "ownership of the show." "Kim wanted an executive producer credit from series three but was never given one. She felt Sarah got more screen time than she did, which was only fair because Sarah Jessica was the lead, but it caused tension," the source revealed.

"Then she had to watch while SJP was given a say on the lines her character said, plotlines and so on. And SJP never had to show nudity, whereas Kim had to be naked the whole time." 

Other sources from the show added that there was always a clash of egos which made the situation on the sets awkward. "Sarah and the other girls . . . called each other and socialized and Kim was always the one left out," the source added. The source revealed that the three, Sarah, Kristin and Cynthia had ghosted Kim out and would not invite her to join them on many occasions. 

Kim did not interact much with other cast members (Twitter)

"Sarah, Kristin, and Cynthia have frozen Kim out. They won't sit with her for meals, there's no going out after the show for a nightcap. It's so bad she basically sits in her dressing room alone — sometimes crying."

There was reportedly a time when Sarah had booked a house for herself, Kristin and Cynthia, leaving Kim on her own. The same incident had come out in the public but according to Daily Mail, the series maker said that there was no problem between the cast members and suggested that the reason Kim was staying at a different place was that she was married at that time and her husband was said to visit her. 

When the show ended in 2004, while Sarah was seen to be more upset and broke down in tears, Kim, on the other hand, did not seem to mind the fact that the show was ending.

"If I miss them, I can just put on a DVD, like everyone else," she said at that time. However, people thought that there might be a beam of light in 2010 when Kim praised Sarah in an interview with a newspaper.

"I think Sarah is fantastic. She is a born leader and she guides the crew and cast in such a strong but gentle way," she said. 

The reason for sex and the city to not get renewed was because of the fallout between the cast members (Twitter)

Just a couple of years after this, there was a script written for yet another Sex And The City movie and the talks about the negotiations were opened in 2016.

But it was later reported that Kim had "killed" the film because of her demands which stated that she would do the movie only if Warner Bros agreed to produce other films which she had in development. 

She later denied this by stating, "The only demand I ever made was that I didn't want to do a third film . . . and that was back in 2016."

Sarah confirmed the same rather more diplomatically: 'It's over. We're not doing it. I'm disappointed." Later, Kim made it very clear in an interview with Piers Morgan that the only connection between them was the show. 

"The common ground we had was the series and the series is over. For me it's over; it's over with no regrets. I just wish that Sarah had been nicer," she said.

Now, Kim has gone all out with her social media post and it doesn't look like she is up for healing things between them. 

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