All people are different and respond to situations differently. The problem is that only certain kinds of people are able to be comfortable in their own skin and project that proudly. More often than not, the ones who do not really speak up are pushed behind and never encouraged to be themselves.
The more people stop trying, the more these shy ones seem to withdraw. The truth is that nobody wants to be alone or left out and we all have something to contribute in our own way. According to psychology professor, Barry Schlenker who told Power of Positivity, " Many shy, socially anxious people report the fear of being unable to make a desired impression on others."
These are 8 ways to help a shy person come out of their shell:
#8 Be yourself!
This is a great way to get a shy person to break out of their shell and it will make a huge difference if you are being yourself. You can be however you want to and stand strong by the person you are. If you are a more outgoing person, you can really win someone over if you just be you.
The funny thing is, this can inspire the shy person to be themselves as well. The more they see you accept and love yourself, the more they begin to feel comfortable with being who they are. Seeing you comfortable and easy, will diffuse any tension or negative thought that they would have had.
#7 Make an effort to start conversations
The hardest thing for shy people to do is to know what to say to break the awkward tension or break the ice. It makes it a whole lot easier on people who are shy if someone else chooses to start the conversation. It becomes a lot easier for the person to contribute to an already flowing conversation than to strike up one on their own.
Shy people often feel like they are too boring or held back to be the life of a conversation or a party and this makes them withdraw. There is no harm in striking up a conversation with someone who is shy and even though it could be hard initially, the shy person will start to ease up and talk.
#6 Build up their self-esteem
The way we see ourselves has a lot to do with our self-esteem and belief. The moment, we doubt ourselves and are unsure of who we are, our self-esteem gets very badly affected. In certain cases, a person's shyness can be because they have low self-esteem and they do not think very highly of themselves.
It is not possible for you to change the way they see themselves but with some encouragement, you can really help to build up their self-esteem and belief. Shy people do not normally make any big changes as they are very self-conscious about it but if you compliment them and help them be more confident, you will be helping them more than you know.
#5 Offer to help them
If a shy person needs some help, it is very unlikely that they will approach you and actually ask for help. They will not be comfortable with sharing their personal details easily or ask for any sort of assistance. The thought and fear of being judged are too great and too much for a shy person to deal with.
According to WikiHow, "Bringing a guy out of his shell is not an overnight process, but takes time. It’s not always as simple as being super kind or asking the right questions. You may need to help him build additional social skills, depending on his personal situation and experiences."
#4 Explore their interests
Make sure to explore their interests and have some idea about the things they like. Most of us love to talk about things which interest us such as books, movies, gossip, music, etc. There is always some sort of a common safe ground which most people will get into. This is one of the best ways to get a shy person to talk and open up.
#3 Use their name
Most people enjoy being acknowledged and hearing their name. The use of the shy person's name along with some positive affirmations can certainly help them in coming out of their shell. When in a conversation with someone who is shy make sure to directly ask them stuff and keep them an active part of the conversation.
Repeating someone's name out loud brings a personal touch and makes the person feel as though they are a 100% involved. When you are in a group, a shy person will always tend to withdraw but with the use of their name, you can make them feel as though they are an equal contributor to the conversation.
#2 Positive affirmations
Most shy people get very awkward when they have to meet someone new and more often than not, they will not really engage. If you are introducing someone who is shy, make sure to introduce that person with a fair amount of positive affirmations. This does not mean you are boasting but merely making that person feel good and at ease.
#1 Have other people start with an introduction
This is one of the hardest things that shy people need to do which is to introduce themselves. When you are surrounded by a bunch of people you don't know, it is natural for most of us to get a little nervous and apprehensive while we assess the situation. When you are introducing a shy person, try and avoid getting them to start first.
Once they have seen how easily and comfortably others are doing it without being judged or laughed at, this could inspire and encourage them to open up. All they need to see is that they are not in a non-threatening environment and they can be who they are, even if it is much quieter than the rest.
Here is a video which explains how you can combat social anxiety and shyness:
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