Awful advice: Agony aunt slammed for urging man NOT to tell his partner he cheated on her by sleeping with a stripper
Viewers 'reeled' at Deidre Sanders after she told a man named 'Dan' who admitted to cheating not to tell his partner, slamming her for her 'awful advice'
After a 'This Morning' phone-in on the subject of "cheating," an agony aunt was on the receiving end of severe social media backlash as several users called her out for the "awful advice" on the issue.
On Friday's episode of the ITV daytime show, Deidre Sanders, who just recently replaced the late Denise Robertson in her role, advised a caller named "Dan" that it would be better for him to keep mum about having cheated on his partner with a stripper he met at a stag party.
Viewers watching at home were reportedly horrified by the advice, according to Daily Mail. Quite a few took to Twitter to voice their disapproval of Deidre telling the man to "swallow down his guilt" and to "not do it again."
Outlining his predicament in a letter to the show, Dan wrote: "Last weekend I was at a stag party, and I ended up sleeping with the stripper. How do I break this news to my partner?"
To this Deidre responded: "I would say, Dan, I know you feel guilty but why tell her?"
She continued: "You behaved really, really wrongly, and I'm in no way excusing it. But if you tell her about it and confess to it, you're saying to her 'oh I did this terrible thing, and I want you to comfort me and say it's all ok and our relationship is going to survive.' Don't do that, suck it up, you swallow down that guilt, you deal with it. You really learn from that and never ever to behave like that again. That's the important thing, you don't repeat it."
Ruth Langsford, the presenter for 'This Morning,' appeared to agree with the new agony aunt. She said, "I would say that is just guilt-offloading. That to me is 'I feel really bad, and I'm just going to sick it up all in your lap, and you deal with it.' So Dan, big mistake but don't do it."
That said, Twitter erupted over Deidre's words, slamming her for her "wrong" advice.
"The advice I’ve just heard on 'This Morning' is so wrong. A guy wants to admit he slept with someone else to his partner and they say nahh don’t tell her," one said.
The advice I’ve just heard on #ThisMorning is so wrong.— lauren. (@laurenalcoran) September 7, 2018
A guy wants to admit he slept with someone else to his partner and they say nahh don’t tell her. So he’s got away with it then?! It’ll come out one day and hurt even more when she realises how long ago it was. Disgusting.
"What advice is that?!? Your saying to not be honest with your partner if you cheated?? Being open and honest is what a relationship needs, not secrets and lies. Awful advice[sic]," said another.
"So he’s got away with it then?! It’ll come out one day and hurt even more when she realizes how long ago it was. Disgusting," fumed a third.
"Thought I’d have a nice lazy day on my day off watching daytime tv and all I’m watching is an agony aunt telling a man not to tell his girlfriend he cheated on her and slept with a stripper and just to swallow the guilt and keep it to himself, eh?!?! How toxic," another user said.